I really appreciate the thought and courage you have infused in this piece. As a lesbian for 4 decades, realising that I was lesbian in the 80's, I ache for the lies & distortion that your generation is going through. It seems like there is endless pressure on us to "move through an adolescent phase," and do what is expected, which is to be available & supportive of men! I cannot believe how far the tide has gone out, so that men are "included" a lesbians! The tide, however, is turning, and developing into a tsunami! I hope so! We have had barely half a century of "sovereignty" and it is being smashed to bits. It is no surprise that the WAR on TERFs is so intense - we are the ones who call out the bullshit! Patriarchal insistence on male domination and control of women has created a Trans Trojan Horse - smashing all the gains of women, safeguarding of children and lesbian sovereignty. NO! The punishment is severe, but I for one, will not forsake young lesbians, living their sexuality in freedom.
I was worried as I read through this article as I thought it was being too tolerant and meek to the point I nearly broke off from reading and regarded you as lost. I am glad I completed reading the whole article and wish you well on having escaped this grooming cult and defined yourself in what should be completely non offensive terms. May you find love with a biological woman.
Yes, yes and yes. You have been lied to, and I deeply appreciate your honesty here. You are not at fault. You are a good, honest person, and that is why you were able to push past the propaganda and swim to the surface for air. Because you saw those cruel, inhuman responses on Lily Maynard's blog, and you began to realise that you didn't belong in a world where that was acceptable. Bless you.
your voice is much appreciated. i am a GenX bisexual who's always claimed Queer, largely cuz back in the day Bi= slut a bit too much for my taste;)
my concerns have slowly but surely been growing as i watch the kids we all had grow up & struggle w/coming of age when sexuality is sort of under assault:/ .. it's sad to me to see soooo many people that i know would have been butch lesbians become trans men,.& so many of the men who choose to ID as trans women are people w/obvious narcissism issues.
didn't know a thing about "TERF"s until the tambourines got busted out & the Repent Muthafkrs came for Chappelle, then M.Atwood,..since then I've had a rude awakening, finding out what's been happening in UK w/"Stonewall".. as an American Queer i find it personally offensive they'd use something so dear to us in the service of something so innately homophobic.. things are severely upside down & its not a 🌈 if it took the Red Pill.
not mine anyhow,.
hoisting a flag up your pole doesn't magically make one not a misogynist & the amount of angry white dudes with beards who are frothing at the mouth for pro Team Trans ,. welp, outta tell ya sumthin aye.
thanx for your bravery in writing this, it's not an easy place to speak the truth in these days, but it is the only ethical thing to do. appreciated🙌🏽🥂🧹
this is so well written. i'm 5 yrs older than you and i dont think i fully believed in queer stuff ever i just parroted the "biological sex and identity are different" but i think i peaked by realising this means people are attracted to identity not sex. (I saw some video of a creepy transwoman claiming lesbian and that was it for me lol).
i love your story about one day at a time!! and i immensely admire you for being able to see through the cognitive dissonance.
I love that you have asserted yourself. I’m so sorry you have been lied to. Children still being lied to. Keep speaking out. We will share your writing & other confused children will know they are not alone. Thank you. A great read. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I enjoyed the read, it came across very well. Just one point, how are you allowed to define your sex? You are an adult human female (now) and surely that does not rely on your definition or understanding of it. Similarly males argue that they can define their sex, but as you may concur, trans women are not women.
love to you so much. i am a slightly pedantic person, i like to clarify i am merely female, attracted to other females, thus homosexual. i hate the obfuscation of this above culture, it frustrates me deeply. i like to feel like im "being truthful" or getting to the core of things. i briefly flirted in gender frivolity and then i exited rather abruptly when i thought to myself (as i was with another female person at the time) that us two non binaries would be seen (by "normies") as lesbians ha ha ha isnt that funny? and i zoomed out and was like.... hmm.... and then same friend group a male i had "dated" (ran away fast when his sexuality "popped" up) announced the female name he identified with and that he and his female partner were a lesbian couple, him a lesbian. it struck me dissonantly when she said she "never knew she was a lesbian but she is! ha ha"(she had only ever dated males and she has never been with any females since) the cognitive dissonance was simply too great.
Very, very nicely written. You have a great style and make really thoughtful points. I had trouble understanding some of the "NewSpeak", but I think that is part of the point you are making. I look forward to reading more from you in the future.
I really appreciate the thought and courage you have infused in this piece. As a lesbian for 4 decades, realising that I was lesbian in the 80's, I ache for the lies & distortion that your generation is going through. It seems like there is endless pressure on us to "move through an adolescent phase," and do what is expected, which is to be available & supportive of men! I cannot believe how far the tide has gone out, so that men are "included" a lesbians! The tide, however, is turning, and developing into a tsunami! I hope so! We have had barely half a century of "sovereignty" and it is being smashed to bits. It is no surprise that the WAR on TERFs is so intense - we are the ones who call out the bullshit! Patriarchal insistence on male domination and control of women has created a Trans Trojan Horse - smashing all the gains of women, safeguarding of children and lesbian sovereignty. NO! The punishment is severe, but I for one, will not forsake young lesbians, living their sexuality in freedom.
Marsha P Johnson was also not a trans woman. He was a gay man and a drag queen, and said so, on video, not long before he died.
Does anyone wonder why non binary men only want to date lesbians not other non binary men!
I was worried as I read through this article as I thought it was being too tolerant and meek to the point I nearly broke off from reading and regarded you as lost. I am glad I completed reading the whole article and wish you well on having escaped this grooming cult and defined yourself in what should be completely non offensive terms. May you find love with a biological woman.
Yes, yes and yes. You have been lied to, and I deeply appreciate your honesty here. You are not at fault. You are a good, honest person, and that is why you were able to push past the propaganda and swim to the surface for air. Because you saw those cruel, inhuman responses on Lily Maynard's blog, and you began to realise that you didn't belong in a world where that was acceptable. Bless you.
your voice is much appreciated. i am a GenX bisexual who's always claimed Queer, largely cuz back in the day Bi= slut a bit too much for my taste;)
my concerns have slowly but surely been growing as i watch the kids we all had grow up & struggle w/coming of age when sexuality is sort of under assault:/ .. it's sad to me to see soooo many people that i know would have been butch lesbians become trans men,.& so many of the men who choose to ID as trans women are people w/obvious narcissism issues.
didn't know a thing about "TERF"s until the tambourines got busted out & the Repent Muthafkrs came for Chappelle, then M.Atwood,..since then I've had a rude awakening, finding out what's been happening in UK w/"Stonewall".. as an American Queer i find it personally offensive they'd use something so dear to us in the service of something so innately homophobic.. things are severely upside down & its not a 🌈 if it took the Red Pill.
not mine anyhow,.
hoisting a flag up your pole doesn't magically make one not a misogynist & the amount of angry white dudes with beards who are frothing at the mouth for pro Team Trans ,. welp, outta tell ya sumthin aye.
thanx for your bravery in writing this, it's not an easy place to speak the truth in these days, but it is the only ethical thing to do. appreciated🙌🏽🥂🧹
Desperate men trying to guilt-trip a woman into having sex with them. Ever known a woman try to get a pity-f**k?
this is so well written. i'm 5 yrs older than you and i dont think i fully believed in queer stuff ever i just parroted the "biological sex and identity are different" but i think i peaked by realising this means people are attracted to identity not sex. (I saw some video of a creepy transwoman claiming lesbian and that was it for me lol).
i love your story about one day at a time!! and i immensely admire you for being able to see through the cognitive dissonance.
I love that you have asserted yourself. I’m so sorry you have been lied to. Children still being lied to. Keep speaking out. We will share your writing & other confused children will know they are not alone. Thank you. A great read. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
This is brilliantly written & thought through. Thank you.
Well done for writing this. I will subscribe to you and I look forward to more.
I enjoyed the read, it came across very well. Just one point, how are you allowed to define your sex? You are an adult human female (now) and surely that does not rely on your definition or understanding of it. Similarly males argue that they can define their sex, but as you may concur, trans women are not women.
love to you so much. i am a slightly pedantic person, i like to clarify i am merely female, attracted to other females, thus homosexual. i hate the obfuscation of this above culture, it frustrates me deeply. i like to feel like im "being truthful" or getting to the core of things. i briefly flirted in gender frivolity and then i exited rather abruptly when i thought to myself (as i was with another female person at the time) that us two non binaries would be seen (by "normies") as lesbians ha ha ha isnt that funny? and i zoomed out and was like.... hmm.... and then same friend group a male i had "dated" (ran away fast when his sexuality "popped" up) announced the female name he identified with and that he and his female partner were a lesbian couple, him a lesbian. it struck me dissonantly when she said she "never knew she was a lesbian but she is! ha ha"(she had only ever dated males and she has never been with any females since) the cognitive dissonance was simply too great.
Interesting journey. Very well written. Stay strong and keep speaking the truth. Thank you for sharing!
Very, very nicely written. You have a great style and make really thoughtful points. I had trouble understanding some of the "NewSpeak", but I think that is part of the point you are making. I look forward to reading more from you in the future.